Would you like to know about the most important signs of a controlling man?
Well, this post is going to give you everything you need to know about such type of guys, and trust me, these signs are going to save your life!
I’m not kidding you, most guys who are very controlling are very dangerous, not only for your psychological well-being and relationship, but for your life as well!
Most cases of domestic abuse and even sex crimes are due to extremely controlling guys who cannot “control” themselves in the first place and end up doing the worst!
I don’t want this happening to you, that’s why I’m going to share with you four signs of a controlling man, and please, if they are all combined in a guy, then, you need to run away, he is no catch!
- So, let’s start with the first sign of a controlling man: he wants to make things his way.
Whenever you are with a controlling man, he will want to make things his way all the time, in fact, if they aren’t, he will feel terrible about himself, and even worse, he will blame you!
This sign is very obvious, and the most important thing you need to look for is blaming.
Whenever you find yourself with a man who blames you all the time and very easily for almost everything that happens to him, then, you are with a man who wants to control your life and a man who wants to make you feel guilty and bad about what you have “done” to him!
Such a man wants only one thing from you: to feel powerful by making you feel terrible about yourself and making you sad!
Remember this: if he is all the time trying to make things his way, and not giving you choices and space to be who you are, then, he is controlling.
- The second sign is over jealousy.
Jealousy is fine in my opinion, it shows care and love, but over jealousy is not, it shows lack of confidence and self-esteem, and it’s very dangerous to most relationships.
That’s why you need to always be on the lookout for over jealousy in a man, if he gets angry easily when you talk to another guy or when you are having fun with your friends away from him, then, he is a controlling guy and you need to stay away from him.
And here, I’m not talking about that one time when he became over jealous, this is very normal and there is nothing to be scared about it, what I’m talking about is behaving this way every single time you do something good or even worse, something good happens to you.
A friend of mine was very controlling of his wife, so controlling that he became very jealous when she got a promotion, he was unemployed back then, he ended up leaving her for two weeks to party with his friends and to go on a European trip just to make her feel terrible about what she “did”!
Be careful, if he is over jealous all the time, then, he wants to control you and even worse, manipulate you!
- The third sign is financial control.
Of course, whenever we are talking about a controlling man, we need to talk about finances and money!
For a controlling man, a woman with money is a powerful woman and for him, he needs to deprive her of this source of power as soon as possible, that’s why you will want to impose his wishes when it comes to spending her money!
So, be careful, if you find out that he is trying to control your finances by blaming you or by pushing you to make certain “investments” or buying him things all the time, then, this is a very obvious sign he is a controlling man.
- The fourth sign is using strength.
And this is the worst in my opinion; it’s using strength and force with you.
When he feels that his manipulative tactics are no longer working, he will scream at you, he will shout at you, and even worse, he may push you and even hit you!
In general, a man who uses strength and force with a woman is weak and controlling who has low self-esteem and needs to be dealt with efficiently.
If it’s the case with you, then, you need to do two things, first, run away, second, call the cops!