I’ve worked with many guys and women in the past ten years, and I know a lot about dating and relationships, and today, I would like to talk about mistakes most women are going to make when starting a relationship with an older man.
Trust me, if you avoid these, you will feel great about yourself and you will get amazing gratification from such a relationship.
- First, let’s talk about a very important thing: is a relationship with an older man normal/healthy?
In other words, are you risking anything?
Well, no! A relationship with an older man is never unhealthy and out of the ordinary, in fact, in most cultures around the world, you will find that marrying an older man can sometimes be extremely beneficial for the woman and her family as well.
Older guys are much more stable, they want a long-term relationship, and most importantly, they are not into playing games; they are extremely serious and are not interested in fluff!
So, what are the mistakes you need to avoid when starting a relationship with an older man?
- The first one is basing the relationship on sex!
Trust me, the moment he thinks of you as being easy, he will use you for what you are!
In other words, don’t give him everything he wants from you “immediately”, act very normal around him, in fact, you should base your relationship on fun and mutual understanding and comfort.
The more comfortable he feels around you, the more he will trust you and the more he will appreciate you.
So, sex should be involved, but not too often.
- The second mistake is stupid jokes!
I’ve met many women who were dating thirty or even forty years older than them men, and let me tell you that one of the most terrible things they have done to destroy such a wonderful relationship were stupid jokes!
For example, women will comment about cholesterol levels and health, they will tell them jokes about death and even stupid jokes about erectile dysfunction! Etc.
I don’t want you to do this, you need to understand that you are dealing with a human being after all, someone who has feelings and emotions, and if you hurt him, he will hurt you back!
So, please, no stupid jokes!
- The third mistake is lots of fun!
In other words, when you are dating and even in a relationship with an older man, don’t try to base it on problems and nagging!
I see this happening all the time, even in younger couples, women meeting guys just to tell them about how terrible their days were and how gloomy their lives are!
Instead, base your relationship on having fun and exploring new places, ideas and activities together.
And if you have problems, don’t overwhelm the other part with them, just relax, and accept yourself as who you are, solve your problems on your own and try to avoid needing and being “clingy” on people, it will make you gain self-confidence and self-esteem and most importantly, it will make the other part feel extremely comfortable being with you.
- The fourth problem and mistake is money.
Don’t start a relationship with an older man for money and financial support.
It’s very toxic and psychologically dangerous as well; I think that I’ve said enough about this issue.
- And the fifth one is sex.
Trust me, older guys are also very sexual and highly aroused by women, however, don’t try to be a “prostitute” around them, in other words, avoid “acrobatic movements” in bed, just be a woman, just relax and have fun, it’s the best way to enjoy and pleasure yourself together.